well, mostly abusive if im being completely honest, but that's a consequence of how those with social leverage push out openly maps, which creates a culture where abuse thrives due to both parties being unable to speak for themselves - but its also for that same reason that my experience with adults has been improving ever since finding this community, and ive begun to make some truly meaningful friendships and relationships, without either being abandoned due to fear, or being abused due to being voiceless